I have found that in every one of us there are two of us....the one who chooses to make things happen and the other who allows things to happen. The question though is which one is the most dominant?
I grew up knowing that women are to be submissive and silent and to some extent I think this is what attracted me to reading and writing. When I write, I am in a world of my own making where the only rules which apply are those which I create. I can 'speak' my mind, 'say' how I feel without fearing that I have to say what is expected of me. Most women I have spoken to admit that writing is their best form of expression. In this technological age, there are so many avenues for self-expression that it is mind boggling! Women no longer have to be satisfied with simply writing in their diaries and keeping it hidden lest it falls into the hands of those who find it difficult to understand that they have dreams and aspirations which supersede any desire to be homemakers. Neither do they have to write politically correct books and novels which place the woman in front of the stove or at the children's playground. The woman can be the president of a multi-million dollar firm which she nurtured from concept to reality, or a mother trying to make a living joggling two jobs while she dreams of one day being her own boss. There is no limit to what can be achieved. Self-expression is one of God's greatest gifts to the human race. So write that book, post that blog and get on with the business of life by bringing out the other side of you, the one who has been wanting to make things happen but have been allowing things to take their course whether you liked it or not.
Bringing out the person within:
Sometimes the person in the mirror does not resemble the person I know is on the inside. For example, I would look in the mirror and see all the things I needed to change about myself but which I did not have the strength or energy to. At the same time, I would visualize the youthful, slim and healthy woman inside me who wanted so much to come and play. That woman is indefatigable, rearing to go at the sound of light touching gently upon earth. Alas, the house in which she lives is sometimes so heavy and sluggish that it really becomes frustrating.
This however can be fixed! The first thing I decided to do was visit my doctor. (it is important to check with your medical doctor when trying or planning to do anything new, especially health-wise). The results were not very encouraging. I had high blood pressure and was overweight. That I told myself was the other woman showing off herself! I wanted the other me to present herself, but she needed my help to do that. Therefore, I decided to give her my support. The second thing I did with the consent of my doctor was begin an exercise program. Now I know that starting an exercise program may not be applicable for everyone, but there is always something you can do to bring that other you out from hiding. Let us suppose that you are an elderly woman but feel young and energetic but that other woman is giving you a hard time. Here’s what you can do: Have a facial done, get a pedicure and a manicure and put on a pretty sun dress. Then put on your favourite shade of lip stick or lip gloss. This will send her into the background for the better part of the day.
Well here I am on day 30, doing all that I was advised to do and slowly but surely I am beginning to see a glimmer of the inner me. My friends are saying things like: Girl you look rested…you look bright, like you can take on the world! Guess who doesn’t like hearing that? Yep, the other woman! But I am on this journey and I am not stopping until I come face-to-face with this long lost friend within me. Hey, don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to be a size 2 or anything like that. I am a big-boned Caribbean woman (lol) however, I know when that other woman is too out there and the other me needs to show up. Interestingly, her showing up really helps the other woman….
How about you? Is there another you within who needs your help making a debut on the stage of life again, for the first time?